The Dream Incubation Experiment

My purpose in researching, writing about and investigating dreams is to help you to become aware of and appreciate the power of your dreams, and to provide you with information on how to use those dreams in a variety of useful ways. I want to inspire you to move from perhaps being an unconscious dreamer to where you're using your dreams for intentional foresight that will lead to personal, psychological and spiritual growth and evolution.

The solution to perplexing and sometimes frustrating problems, as well as everyday solutions to mundane issues, can reliably be resolved in the dreaming mind. Historical records bear witness to humanity's attempts to seek (and receive) guidance, wisdom and solutions through their dreams.

The ancient Sumerians, Egyptians, Greeks, Chinese, Indigenous cultures, and many, many more have dedicated sacred sites, writings and resources to the study and incubation of healing, problem solving, creative and guidance dreams. Even in modern times, dreams have helped solve problems in science, politics, literature, religion and almost every other industry, segment or part of society, as well as with everyday concerns such as health, finance, relationships and so forth.

Inventions as varied as Elias Howe's sewing machine needle-where he dreamt the solution to the problem with the needle to be the placement of the hole at the pointed end-- and J. B. Parkinson's computer-controlled antiaircraft gun, were conceived in dreams. Scholar Herman Hilprecht reported that he dreamt that an Assyrian priest revealed the accurate translation of the stone of Nebuchadnezzar.

Problem Solving

The most common use of dream incubation is to request a solution to a current or continuing problem in your work or home life. These may be along the lines of whether to ask for a raise or make a career change; whether to have a baby or marry your current beau; If now is the right time to take the plunge and buy that little house, or move to another part of the country.

Several research studies have examined different aspects of problem solving and dreams. Wile, in 1934, addressed the incubation issue when he measured how long it took children to self-induce a dream on a desired topic. In 1974, Dement tested 500 undergraduate students by giving them three "brain-teaser" problems to solve while they slept. Morton Schatzman, in the 1980s repeated the Dement experiment, giving brain-teasers to huge numbers of people in England via the mass media.

Dr. Deirdre Barrett, of the Harvard Medical School, Behavioral Medicine Program, conducted a study of dream incubation for problem solving. However, unlike the researchers before her, she explored how subjects would do if they could solve problems of their own choice, rather than predetermined puzzles or problems.

One of the more interesting results of the Barrett study revealed that a solution was usually arrived at by the start of the dream. It didn't appear that the problem was being struggled with throughout the experience. However, in some instances, the solution was presented through subtle hints which built toward more obvious ones until the conscious mind finally "got the message."

Inventive and Scientific Solutions

Inventors, by nature are dreamers; sometimes in a very literal sense. Nikola Tesla, famous inventor of the high-voltage transformer (Tesla coil), for example, often perceived his inventions in dreams and in dream-like mental visions. Tesla reported that he "saw" his inventions as if they were real on the screen of his mind's eye. He claimed that the power of his imagery was such that he could do "experiments in his mind."

Friedrich August Kekulé von Stradonitz was the great chemist who revolutionized the study of chemistry with the discovery of the Benzene molecule. In a dream he was shown an image of a snake biting its own tail and realized that the molecule was a "closed chain."

In 1922, Niels Bohr received the Nobel Prize in physics due to a dream that enlightened him. He was trying to figure out what the structure of an atom was. One evening he fell asleep and in his dreams he saw the nucleus of the atom, with the electrons spinning around it, just like our solar system with the sun and planets. He knew immediately that this was the solution to his problem. Further testing and experiments proved it to be true.

Creative Solutions

Dreams can provide creative insights and solutions as well as practical and mundane ones.

Mary Shelley, who in the company of her famous husband Percy Shelley, Lord Byron, and others had been reading aloud a collection of ghost stories, became part of a plan, suggested by Lord Byron, that they all write ghost stories of their own.

According to Mary Shelley's journal of April 1817, after listening to a long conversation between Byron and Shelley on the speculation that, "Perhaps a corpse would be reanimated," she retired to her bed well where, stimulated by the evening's conversation, was unable to sleep. When finally she did fall into blissful slumber her "imagination, unbidden, possessed and guided me, gifting the successive images that arose in my mind with a vividness far beyond the usual bounds of reverie," she wrote, and thus Frankenstein was born.

Robert Louis Stevenson was influenced by his dreams. He wrote an essay in which he called his dream helpers "the Brownies. Whenever he was stuck for a character, plot or story he'd make a request of his "Brownies" and in the morning he'd have what he needed.

Edgar Allen Poe's personal favourite work was The Lady Ligeia. He was particularly captivated by her eyes, which had met his in a dream. Her eyes were "far larger than the ordinary eyes of our race. They were even fuller than the fullest of the gazelle eyes of the tribe of the valley of the Nourjahad."

Healing Solutions

Like Edgar Cayce, though perhaps not to the same degree, we can all request health related information, advice and even diagnoses. In 2004, I was suffering with terrible headaches daily. I had visited the doctor but, after a cursory examination, he informed me that there was "nothing wrong." Frustrated with his evaluation and flippant attitude, I decided to diagnose the problem myself... with the help of my dreaming mind. The dream I received that night told me that my diet and my anger with a situation in my life at that time were the cause. A change in eating habits and attitude alleviated the headaches.

The Power Of The Mind

Anyone who's experienced a creative breakthrough or insight through their dreams knows that the dreaming mind has a power we don't experience while awake. This power is unfettered by time, space, or self-imposed limitations. It reaches into the endless, boundless and eternal universe of unmanifest potential, where unlimited ideas, inspirations and imaginings lay in wait.

When you incubate or request, a resolution, solution or guidance dream, your sub/unconscious and superconscious mind work in unison to bring you the best solution for you at the present time. In some instances you may have been thinking about a particularly troubling problem for days, weeks or even months, but hadn't been able to resolve the issue. Then, out of the blue, you have a dream that makes everything crystal clear. At other times, you might not have consciously been focused on any particular problem, but you have a dream that provides you with a big "fix" for your life in general. It may be that the issue was smouldering in the back of your mind for quite a while and your dreaming mind finally brought it to the forefront for you to deal with.

Incubation Method

There are tons of resources on how to incubate or request a specific dream. What I'm sharing here is my own personal method. Feel free to adjust it to your liking.

The most important part of dream incubation is setting an intention. The more clearly your intention is articulated, thought or written, the more likely it is that you'll dream the answer to your question, problem or issue.

Clearly define the issue in your conscious mind first. What do you want your dreams to work on? Are you seeking the answer to a technical question or a career decision? Are you inquiring into a health or physical concern? Are you debating a relationship issue? By clearly understanding the problem or concern, you'll better understand the solution given.

If you usually keep a dream journal, write out your question or query on a new page. If you don't have a dream journal, any piece of paper will do. If you can draw an image, add a photograph, sketch the problem, add the additional information.

Once you settle into bed for the night, start thinking about the issue you want your dreams to work on. Repeat the question or statement you wrote out, over and over while you drift off to sleep.

That's all there is to it. You may not get an answer, solution or response the first time you try dream incubation. If this is the case, don't be disheartened. If you keep with it, you will get the answers you need. The most common reason new dreamworkers feel that their efforts yield no results is that they don't recognize that the dream or dreams they receive relate to the problem at hand (or each other). However, what I've found is that once I begin investigating the dream story, I'm surprised to discover how much they do in fact relate to my concerns and that they do indeed offer practical and sound solutions.

Like any new skill, dream incubation takes a little bit of practice and some patients. Once you begin using your dreams to explore and resolve issues, problems and concerns, you'll discover how invaluable the information they offer really is and you'll wonder why you didn't start requesting guidance sooner.

The Experiment

The point of this entire article is to provide the background and reason for an experiment I'm conducting, and to invite you to take part in the research. From October 31, 2012 to December 31, 2012 I'll be requesting information from my dreams on a variety of topics. I will also be attempting to incubate information for others as well.

Every day (or once I receive an answer/response to a dream query) I'll post the pre-dream request or question on the blog at: http://terrygillisdreamanalyst.ca/blog/. I'll then post the dream I receive. If you would like to participate, either by incubating your own questions/queries or by requesting that I incubate an issue for you, post your question or incubation and dream on the blog.

At the end of the eight weeks, I'll write up a report and article on the experiment and our results.

Terry Gillis is a dream investigator, researcher and author and would like to invite you to participate in her ongoing research and become a part of the growing dream community by posting your dreams on her blog.

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Verifying God's Existence and Curing Mental Illnesses

Carl Jung discovered that our dreams are produced by the unconscious mind in the end of a barbarous century. The beginning of the twentieth century was marked by two world wars. The end of this century was characterized by a sudden scientific and technologic progress, and the predominance of atheism.

The world changed very much. On one hand, this progress was positive and it helped us in many ways. On the other hand, many tragic mistakes transformed our civilization into an always more absurd and cruel civilization.

I continued Carl Jung's research in order to denounce the irresponsibility of the human race. I discovered that we are absurd from birth, and we tend to acquire worse mental illnesses with time, while we are not doing anything to prevent craziness.

Mental illnesses are invincible. We have to do everything we can in order to prevent the formation of mental disorders, without wasting time.

The symptoms of severe mental illnesses are unbearable. They are caused by our anti-conscience, which is the wild side of our conscience. The anti-conscience causes dizziness, fainting, oral and visual distortions, emptiness in the mind (blackout), panic attacks, and hallucinations with the intention to destroy our conscience and control our behavior. It also sends numerous absurd thoughts to our conscience.

Nothing can be worse than a severe mental illness for a mentally ill person, and for their environment. Mental illnesses transform human beings into violent monsters tortured by unbearable feelings because they are controlled by their wild conscience.

The anti-conscience is a primate that can think. It has satanic characteristics because it is the tragic result of the disorganized formation of the first live conscience, and it refuses to change its behavior. When the anti-conscience manages to completely destroy a person's human conscience, it permanently takes the place of their ego, and acts in their place.

We cannot keep ignoring the existence of terror and try to live well in parallel with craziness and despair if we want to eliminate all mental illnesses forever. Our anti-conscience cannot be transformed into human conscience in a world characterized by violence.

Our world must be a place where everyone will have the chance to transform their wild nature into human nature, so that they may evolve and find happiness in life.

If we are indifferent to the existence of terror on Earth and we do nothing to eliminate poverty, we cannot but suffer because of the tragic consequences of our ridiculous mistakes. Our attempts to cure mental illnesses while closing our eyes to the terror that prevails in our world are predestined to fail from the beginning, exactly because they are absurd.

Our military power, our wars, our crimes, and our hypocrisy prove that we are barbarous and insane creatures. We cannot put and end to mental illnesses if we live in a place where terror, violence, and despair exist.

If we were not insane, we wouldn't be indifferent to poverty, and to the violence that characterizes our world. We wouldn't be able to sing and dance, while knowing that other people are dying of hunger or being victims of violent attacks.

We would suffer with the suffering we observe, and we would do everything we could in order to put and end to this suffering. We would care about eliminating terror, poverty, immorality, and violence on Earth the same way we care about eating and living well. Our apathy before so many horrors clearly indicates that we are totally insensitive.

There is no human sensitivity in our frozen hearts.

If you want to be balanced, you must an exception. You have to be sensitive and suffer with other people's pain. You must care about everyone's life; not only your own. You cannot be insensitive and distant.

The meaning of your dreams helps you understand this truth and stop making the common mistakes of the human race. Through dream translation you acquire permanent sound mental health because you eliminate the evilness and the absurdity you have inherited in your brain, and the evilness and absurdity of the world. You stop closing your eyes to what is bad.

This doesn't mean that you live crying, but that you act. You do everything you can do to save the world; the same way you do everything you can to improve your own life. You stop observing the chaotic situation of the world with apathy and lack of responsibility. You understand that you have to do your part. The world needs your contribution.

God sends you dreams with information and guidance in order to help you eliminate your satanic anti-conscience and attain sanctity through consciousness. You can verify this truth into practice by translating the meaning of your dreams based on the scientific method of dream interpretation.

You should desire to follow a path of psychological and spiritual transformation with the intention to have the behavior of a saint.

Now, you are probably worried, thinking that God will make you abandon the luxury of your house and be poor.

Does God want to see you living on poverty? Why are all saints always poor?

They are poor because they understand that they cannot ignore the suffering of the world and indifferently enjoy their lives, glad with the material pleasures that other people cannot have.

God wants to see you having everything you need. You don't live on Earth in order to pass through poverty. This is not what God prepared for you.

Poverty is a result of the influence of the absurd and evil anti-conscience into everyone's conscience. If our world is a living hell where many people are starving while a privileged group is living well, this is because we created this absurd situation.

God created our planet in order to transform our anti-conscience into human content through wisdom and sensitivity. Many times we have to accept suffering in order to learn how to be wise. However, it is not God's intention to make us pass through an unbearable hell while we are alive. The unbearable situation that prevails in our world is a result of our own absurdity.

We have the moral obligation to eliminate poverty on Earth if we want to eliminate terror. Those who live on poverty cannot but spread terror everywhere, since they live on terror. This means that they are completely controlled by their anti-conscience.

Everyone else is also controlled (or only sometimes influenced) by their evil and absurd anti-conscience the same way. This is why they are indifferent to the misery of those who are starving.

When Jesus said that "It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God" He meant that those who are rich care only about feeding their ego. They are totally indifferent to the misery of the poor. This is why they cannot but go to hell.

Jesus was condemning the rich man because of his selfishness and greed, and not because of his desire to be wealthy.

God gives us food in abundance, but we don't want to share our food with our brothers and sisters. We prefer to be cruel because we like to be kings, and have many slaves. Our satanic nature is responsible for the cruelty that characterizes our behavior and the terror that characterizes our world.

We have to indispensably put an end to poverty on Earth, so that we may be able to put an end to terror, violence, and immorality, and then, eliminate all mental illnesses. The divine unconscious mind can help us discover how to feed humanity, without letting anyone die of hunger.

We will surely find salvation when we'll put an end to the unbearable situations of the world, and pass through a process of psychological and spiritual transformation. God can help us attain all goals with His lessons in dreams. We only have to seriously obey the divine guidance.

Christina Sponias continued Carl Jung's research into the human psyche, discovering the cure for all mental illnesses, and simplifying the scientific method of dream interpretation that teaches you how to exactly translate the meaning of your dreams, so that you can find health, wisdom and happiness. Learn more at: scientificdreaminterpretation.com.

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How to Determine That You Have Psychic Abilities

I'm sure you have heard these expressions many times:

" What a sad soul" - "What a gentle soul" or even "What a happy soul."

These are statements regularly used by many people, day in day out in their every day lives. It is not only a matter of how we are physically, that makes us feel good, it is what goes on inside at a soul level that gives us that feeling of lightness and happiness. No amount of material goods will bring that feeling to us. Long term anyway. Maybe a night out for a few drinks will dull the feeling of worry. Before long we realise it can only be a temporary fix. Restoring your well being is all about soothing and healing your spiritual self. Finding the place in each of us that has always known truth and love.

At times life deals us some fairly harsh lessons. Sometimes, the hurts can be so small we don't remember them. However, deep inside the very fibre of our being every hurt is stored. Clearing them away is very beneficial to our mental and physical well being. This cane how a person's Guide or Angel can step in through a Clairvoyant Medium ( a channeller)

What is a Spirit Guide?

The term "spirit guide" seems to mean something different to each and every person. However in general terms "Spirit Guide" means someone in the spirit world who has had an Earth life and who has chosen to help and support you.

There are other energies that have been described as spirit guides who are known as ascended masters, spiritual leaders, elementals, Gods and Goddesses, even ET's. They may come from an ancient civilisations or from many walks of life - from ever in fact everyone and everything, way back to the beginning of creation.

Guides can appear to us as being of any age, young to old. A spirit guide can be an old soul from any culture, era or country, they wait patiently to be able to help us whilst we are in this lifetime and can give vast amounts of wisdom to help us on our way. Remember we all have one no matter whether we believe or not! They are non judgemental, all loving and supportive of each of us.

What is the difference between a Spirit Guide and a Guardian Angel?

Generally Guardian Angels have not had an earthly life but are very wise and understanding of everything that there is as with Spirit Guides they are there to help and support us and shower us with their their protecting energy. This may be whoever we are, whatever our spiritual beliefs, even if we don't have any spiritual beliefs or are agnostic. Spirit Guides who are supporting people consciously walking a spiritual path, will be doing everything they can to help them on that path, be it mediumship, healing, mentorship, spiritual leadership, etc.

Does everyone have a Spirit Guide?

Yes, everyone has spirit guides. Some guides are unique to you, others will be helping other people as well, such as Archangel Michael, Jesus, Mary etc.

Can you have more than one Spirit Guide?

Yes, you can have a number of guides. Each guide may be with you for a different reason. This will be to support you during specific aspects of your life and journey. One or more guides will be your main guide/s. They will be with you all your life and will never leave you. When you learn to tune into them you will be able to receive so much guidance, you will begin to wonder how you did without this loving, dedicated friend of yours.

Do our Spirit Guides Change throughout my Life?

Yes, as you evolve and mature spiritually and as your circumstances change, your guides will change too. New guides, appropriate for new stages in your spiritual journey will move close to help you. Many people can sense when they have a new spirit guide close by and this of course is dependent on your current circumstances. Your Master Guide will never leave you.

Are our Spirit Guides unique to us?

Your guides work personally with you and for you.
They set out to guide and bring you comfort, to let you know that they understand your circumstances and they work so hard to help you along your path of learning.

How do spirit guides help us?

Gosh, in so many ways do our Guides help. They are so busy orchestrating "coincidences" and opportunities for us. These will be in accord with our thoughts, words and actions and will align with our spiritual aims and purpose. Our guides will do what they can to bring these opportunities to our attention. It is up to us to recognise these opportunities and opt choose whether or not to take them.

Have you ever though about how something may help you in a certain situation, then heard a song, seen a sign, met the perfect person to help you resolve your predicament or maybe you have picked up a book looking for just the right words and found that it falls open at exactly the right page? Maybe an answer to a dilemma or question has come about via a chance conversation or meeting. If the answer was unexpected, you can be pretty sure that your guides have been involved.

See your Spirit Guides as experienced mentors, protectors, helpers and friends. They are there to support, love and assist you. You may be connected with that guide through a previous incarnation and every guide has their own specific role, working both independently and in partnership with your other guides.

How long will my guide stay with me?

Your principal, or main guide, who will stay with you throughout your entire life. At other times you will be joined by one or more guides who are particularly skilled at helping with specific aspects or challenges. Some will be around you for a long time, others for shorter spells to help with specific issues. Do not fret that you have been abandoned if you think they are not around. It is generally your own worries and concerns that block these feelings of connection. Trust that they NEVER leave your side.

Can spirit guides a relatives from your family connection?

In a nut shell, yes. People who pass into Spirit will often choose to stay close to their loved ones on the Earth plane. However like all humans that pass over, we must have a time of healing and coming to terms with having died and also understanding the lessons that we had to learn or did not quite learn. A Spirit Guide has nearly always been an apprentice guide for some time before gaining the wonderful position of Spirit Guide. It generally means they have lived many lifetimes and gained enormous compassion, wisdom and patience to be as so responsible as to be guiding us here on this plane.

Can spirit guides be animals?

Again the answer is yes. Guides can certainly be animals and, like any other guide, will have a particular reason for being with you. They may have been a very special friend to you in your life, a dog, cat,horse, bird. All animal creatures are as special as we are both in life and afterlife.

Will the Guide know to come through for someone in their Reading?

Most definitely, a good Channeller, will prepare themselves by grounding themselves and working with the White Light of Spirit and indicate that they are having an appointment with a certain person. This way there can be no doubt that the Spirit Guide is there ready and waiting to communicate.

In learning that you have these amazing Spirits to guide and love you throughout your life makes finding out how they can help to carry the burden of your journey in this lifetime, all the more important.

In Love and Light, Libby Taylor. libbytclairvoyanthealer.com, libbytclairvoyanthealer[at]gmail.com. Providing useful self development and improvement articles, hynotherapy and counselling writings and other mind help resources online.

Who You Are and Bringing Your Gift

~A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep. Vernon Howard~

WHO YOU ARE AND BRINGING YOUR GIFT

Just look at you! You are something else! You are just too much!

Haven't we all heard these words at some point in our lives? Well, hopefully we have.

What was happening at the time? Perhaps you were at a party and were having a great time laughing and talking and even dancing. Maybe you were being theatrical in our way of expressing ourselves, making faces and hand motions to carry our point across to others. Or you were in your art studio creating or in your sound booth singing!

How did that feel, being fully self expressed, not even having to think at all, but rather feeling ourselves pouring on every level? Some might call it the zone. Think of your art, your craft, the thing you love to do the most in life, what you are passionate about. Are you analyzing it, struggling with it, feeling pressed by it, uncomfortable with it, or is it simply a flow, an easy outpouring of ourselves? You know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, when you are being fully you and in that zone.

You also know when you are not being you but seeking to please, aiming to be something you are not, someone you think others want you to be. In other words, scrunching all up into a box to be what you think others want you to fit into. This might mean dressing differently than you would, talking differently, putting on what and who you are not. Now feel how that feels. Not so good? I say!

Feel how it feels to be fully you, being in the zone of your real and authentic you! Fell how it feels to seek to be someone others might want you to be, or you think they want you to be. Which feels better?

Being fully you is the gift you bring. It is your life experience, your story, you victories and your failures, you joys and your sadness, your gains and your losses. Honoring every bit of who you are, in all your reality, allows you to deliver that gift. This is the heart of the matter. Fully honoring and integrating every part of you, embracing fully who you are, leaves nothing to hide, nothing to pretend, nothing that needs covering. You see you naked, real, in all your foibles and human bean-ness. Being the real you, allows the real you to be.

The parts you deny, cover, suppress, hide, dishonor, call for you to continue to be that which you are not. What you press down, presses YOU down. All you deny about you, denies the real you. What you cover, covers the real you. What you suppress, suppresses you. Embracing and loving every bit of who you are, even the parts that may not seem to be desirable qualities, is your true self. Bringing YOU into wholeness then allows you to express who you are, being fully you.

So ask yourself, "where am I incongruent with my true self and what parts of me can I honor and embrace?".

You cannot deliver something you are not. You cannot bring a message that is not fully you.

You will fail to deliver that fully, if it is not you. You will not be able to express your true self if all parts of you are not congruent or integrated together. It will show and others will see it is not you. Besides that, YOU will know because you will feel the struggle in every part of your body.

Why would you seek to be anything but you? Some change and alter who they are to please others and seek approval. Approval seeking is a lost cause and worthless pursuit. Why? Because it will never come to fruition. That's right. One who seeks approval from others will never be okay, never meet approval, never be accepted nor receive satisfaction. Approval seeking is a hungry monster that can never be satiated. Not only that but it hurts when the results are not achieved, which they never are.

Here are 9 reasons why you no longer care about people's approval:

1) A happy life can be lived without other's approval. Just because someone may not like us or what we do or say, it does not mean there is something wrong with us. You are a whole person, and complete and there is nothing outside of you that you need in order to feel whole.

2) You won't be liked by everybody. Not everyone will like you and some will continue to talk about you. They are simply someone who feels the need to talk about someone. Hey, it gives others a rest if they are talking about you!

3) It is a time waster. Why waste your time and energy on other people's opinions.

4) It drains you. It takes a lot of your energy to fuss and fume about other people's thoughts.

5)You are free and have the freedom to be YOU. When you let go of what they say or do, you have all the freedom to be fully you, coming into all you are and can be!

6) You run your life and they run theirs.This is the divine right of every one of us, The free choice to live how we live and let other's live as they do. When we fully free ourselves to live our lives, in the process we free other as well!

7) You can have peace inside.Having the inner peace of knowing you are whole and complete not needing others to tell you that you are, is immense! We all want peace and to be happy and as soon as you stop caring about what "they" think, you have found the source to peace and happiness.

8) You can never control what others think of you. Have fun trying. We all came from different worlds, different backgrounds, a different reality that is unique to each of us. This reality that was built from the time we were born, based on our thoughts, beliefs, experiences,all sourced from the way we were raised. I see black you see white, I see something as wrong and you may see it as right. I love green and you might hate green.

9) You are the only person that can give approval to YOU! When you get, inside yourself, who you are and all you bring, your real value and give approval to yourself, that is the only human approval you need! You are free!

Well, "what to do" you may ask? The answer is very simple, my friends. It is summed up in three words; "Just be YOU".

It is so easy to just be YOU. It is so difficult to be someone you are not. Being you, is all you truly know how to be. However, one must work hard to be someone and something else. To be thrown about by varying ideas, thoughts and opinions, to meet other people's approval is like seeking to set anchor in a hurricane. One will never know direction, be tossed about continually, and be in chaos all the time. Hurt, pain, fear, sadness, unworthiness are all feelings that come with seeking the approval of others.

The prize, the gift, the blessing, does not come from accolades from others. It is quite the opposite. The gems and treasures of life comes from being full you, being present to all that you are, bringing what you bring in delivering the gift of who you are in the world.

If you are not you, who will be? Who will bring your unique self out there and make a difference like only you can? No one. The world will have missed out. Why? Because you were too busy, working all hard to be someone else. Life has passed you by in the hurricane of life and you have no anchor in you.

To drive home this point, essentially you have died to who you are and the eulogy has been told. It is not too late however. You can rewrite it now. Stop living to please, but please live!Stop seeking others approval, be who you truly are, letting your light shine and bring your gift. Deliver to the world what only you have been blessed to deliver, your unique and fully expressed self.

So who are YOU and what gift do you bring?

Bette J Shaw, HHC is a certified Lifestyle and Health Coach. She works with individual clients and groups. The focus of her work is supporting women to look and feel younger, living healthier and happier lives through diet, thought pattern and lifestyle changes. She supports her clients not only in setting goals but having the resources to reach these goals. If you are interested in learning more about life coaching and how to take steps to greatly improve your life, please contact Bette.

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Do you struggle with these kinds of feelings? D you wonder why you let other people's thoughts, feelings and ideas influence you to the point where you cannot feel fully you and continue to be a people pleaser, seeking approval from others?

I am a holistic health coach and I am here to support you in setting and reaching your goals of being fully you and living a truly self expressed life. Together we work, one on one and step by step, to shine the light on who you truly are. You are already whole and complete and I assist you in allowing your inner light to shine!

Are you ready to rise and shine?

Contact me today for a free consultation, to see how it feels to team up with me for your optimum health and happiness!

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